I’ve been reminded again and again over the last few days how easy it is to disassociate from people we don’t know. It’s easy to think that people we don’t know don’t have any issues or pain, and on an even farther scale, that they are actually somehow evil or bad. The thing is, we are all human. We all go through this thing called life, and not a single person has it easy. We are all here to learn and grow and figure out what the meaning is for each of us. No one has the right to determine that for anyone else.
So please, can we move forward with a little more compassion? Sometimes, it’s helpful to ask “what if” questions about every single person encountered: “What if someone they loved just died?” “What if they have been through a traumatic event recently or at any time in their life?” “What if they have crippling perfectionism or anxiety based on their less than perfect childhood?” Because chances are, even if not the questions asked, that something is true for them.
What if we move forward with curiosity about others instead of judgement? What if we choose love over fear? What if we remember that we aren’t the only person on earth who matters?
I’ve even encountered people judging others for being too quiet, too lazy, making different decisions than themselves, or not having the same drive as themselves. Not everyone needs to be a carbon copy of each other. If we were, the world would be extremely boring. I’m reminded of the book The Giver by Lois Lowry. Let’s not inadvertently make this into that world.
I’m not saying this should be a perfect practice. If we were perfect, we wouldn’t be human. Self-care still matters, your own voice still matters, your boundaries still matter. I was just hoping that maybe we could approach each other with a tiny bit less judgement.
*Disclaimer: if someone is actually trying to harm you, you have every right to defend yourself & get out of the situation.
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